Those looking up the term anuptaphobia are likely to find the following definition: “fear of staying single.” Yet this definition says little about a fairly common phobia, and doesn’t add that this fear doesn’t just encompass concern about being single. Some people suffer anuptaphobia in the form of being afraid of being married to the wrong person for life. Others more relate the term to gamophobia, which is fear of all things to do with marriage and weddings.
Cases of anuptaphobia may be very mild to severe. Many people hope and plan for the day when they find the perfect partner with whom to share their lives. In absence of this perfection, they might act in ways that are irrational. They may choose partners on a whim and quickly marry without time to consider the consequences. Alternately they could stay in destructive relationships where the promise of marriage or lifetime commitment is real, because they fear the consequences if they are suddenly single. This is perhaps the most severe form of anuptaphobia; when a woman or man will not extricate him or herself from an inherently abusive relationship because the fear of being along exceeds fear of abuse.